The person I'm with (often, sometimes or never)

Everyone deserves to be in a safe and healthy relationship. Do you know if your relationship is healthy? Choose how often your partner does the following to find out. Make sure to write down your responses. At the end, you’ll find out how to score your answers.

What does your score mean?

Now that you're finished and have your score, the next step is to find out what it means. Simply take your total score and see which of the categories below apply to you.

Score: 0 or Less Points Point

Did you get a negative score or a zero? Don’t worry -- it's a good thing! It sounds like your relationship is on a pretty healthy track. Maintaining healthy relationships takes some work -- keep it up! Remember that while you may have a healthy relationship, it's possible that a friend of yours does not. If you know someone who is in an abusive relationship, find out how you can help them.

Score: 1-5 Points

If you scored one to five points, you might be noticing a couple of things in your relationship that is unhealthy, but it doesn't necessarily mean they are warning signs. It's still a good idea to keep an eye out and make sure there isn't an unhealthy pattern developing.

The best thing to do is to talk to your partner and let them know what you like and don't like. Encourage them to do the same. Remember, communication is always important when building a healthy relationship. It's also good to be informed so you can recognize the different types of abuse.

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Score: 6-10 Points

If you scored six to ten points, it sounds like you may be seeing some warning signs and your relationship may be unhealthy. Don’t ignore these red flags. Something that starts small can grow much worse over time. No relationship is perfect -- it takes work! But in a healthy relationship you won't find abusive behaviors.

If you think your relationship may not be as healthy as you deserve, talk with a trained counsellor get more information.

Score: 11-50 Points

If you scored more than 50 points, it is important to consider taking steps to ensure your safety. A trained counsellor is available to work with you to create a safety plan that is tailored to your situation, and focused on keeping you safe whether you choose to remain in the relationship or not.

You don't have to deal with this alone. We can help. Talk with someone to learn about your different options. Everyone deserves a healthy relationship.